Indeed, you are the bread winner of this family, many (will) look up to you,many consider you a leader.
But what's with this fear? Just because you failed once? Shouldn't you pick up the key and lead again?
The lord said, this family lack focus, would remain in chaos and confusion without your leadership experience.
Thou you are not perfect, you just need to be a little be bolder, stronger and do away with these fear/limitation ,and avoidance this within contending statement : can I lead this people? Will I be able to solve or stand as the leader of this family?
What you are battling is are : fear, fair of failing, fear of disappointing everyone and or fear of the look down upon should anything go wrong.
Be the lord assured< you can!! Yes you can!!
All you need do is, as the lord to cast away these fears/limitation and give you spirit of WISDOM'
Because, like it or not? This people will cease not seeking for you, seeing you as a leader and one who can solve anything unsolved issues within the family.
Note: the lord said, your younger brother can't handle it,nor lead this family but you. Don't push it on him he can't handle it. You are the leader,you are to settles issues when arises.
Bless u